Wednesday, January 9, 2008

Love Triangle??!!

What happens when 2 women are in love with the same man?
There is bound to be jealousy... And what if the two women share the same name, the same spaces and sometimes even the same kitchen? Arguments? Competition?

So, how exactly can the man play the balancing act?
He would like to believe that he is treating both of them fairly. He loves both the women in different ways. However, sometimes one relationship may take a back seat over the other due to the time-span of the relationship and vice versa. But definitely he would have his preferences...

And how about the women?
From their point of view, the object of either’s love is same but the degree, totally different... And these two women love the man too much to blame him, so the blame goes entirely on the other woman in his life. And that is when the conflict begins and the man gets pulled into it whether he likes it or not.

Problem problem...

A little bit of intelligence could sort this out easily...
1. They should have the basic understanding that neither of them hates the other
2. Space- to each other – Hey! Be practical. The guy cannot always take only you out for shopping or some function- both of you can join him during some of the occasions...
3. Sportsmanship – Come on! Be a sport- one of you HAS to be second. Both of you can’t be equally good at everything – be it cooking his favorite dish or being his listening ear or being his best friend…
4. Times do change – you could be or would have been in the other’s shoes some time or the other…

Oh yeah! I completely forgot to mention one more thing... The 2 women I’m talking about here are the Mother-in-Law and the Daughter-in-Law! ;-)

8 comments:

Umamaheswaran said...

What was the need to mention that they are Daughter in law and mother in law .. that is what I(Read - innocent boy) thought from the beginning.. Cha sangs,.. how perverted you are ;-) ... ha ha

Pointblank said...

well.. I knew it all along! But I think after getting married the wife should be priority. If te guy just wanted to remain a mama's boy, y get married in te first place?? Why doesn't wretched mil let go? Doesnt she know how it feels? And do we have such issues between father-in-law and son-in-law? Screw the joint family system I say!

PS: I'm not married yet!

Hip Grandma said...

Oh yes,it was evident that this was a MIL/DIL thing.Adds spice to life doen't it? BTW done your tag.

Preeti Shenoy said...

Good one!!
Sadly I never knew my mom-in-law.She passed away long before I got married.
And thanks for blog rolling me!Was surprised and honoured too.

Preeti Shenoy said...

Good one!!
Sadly I never knew my mom-in-law.She passed away long before I got married.
And thanks for blog rolling me!Was surprised and honoured too.

Sango said...

@Umamahesh : Did u say innocent??? ;-)
@pointblank : My view - I may sound emotional but the bond between a mother and a son is always 9 months greater than that of a father and son.. So according to me, a mom would feel a lot more insecure to see her son giving her DIL more love and attention..
And whats life without a large family.. without so many people and relationships with their own niceties.. Matter of perspective!To each his own..
@HHG: It sure does add spice to life..
@Ps: Dont worry, u'll have a DIL sometime later in life with whom you can have sweet fights.. ;-)

Kamini said...

Good one - nice to keep a sense of humour about this relationship which is such a delicate balancing act!

Anonymous said...

aaaaaaaaaaaaah!

I think the man has to be involved because its up to him also to keep both women secure in their spaces. But the wife has to be important...they're to live a life together!!!

and hell, the gir's dad or mom don't go anywhere with the couple....the boy's parents should also chill and let the kids be!

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